Reassurance/encouragement is important in any relationship, but I would go so far as to say that it is more important in an interabled relationship. I know what to expect with my Cerebral Palsy every single day, despite that fact it doesn’t mean I don’t have bad days along the way. Some days are harder than others whether it be from stiffness or just wishing I could do more on my own; one smile or one kiss from Margaret instantly fixes everything. When Margaret just drops an “I love you” and says “I knew you needed it,” I’m reassured right then and there.
Margaret is also amazing with encouragement. The first thing that comes to mind is when I put my seatbelt on by myself in her car. Her reaction was totally unexpected and made the moment even more sweeter. Another example is cutting my food on my own(with a little bit of help from Margaret). Like I said in the last blog everything takes trial and error. Margaret always cheers me on and never lets me struggle. Just remember how much your significant other is doing for you each day, a hug or an I love you can go a very long way.
I never wanted to admit that I was a person that needed reassurance. I still don’t like to admit it, but I am getting better with it. Charlie is partly to thank for that. What I like to say is that I am very secure in our relationship, I don’t need reassurance about Charlies love for me(even though he reminds me every chance he gets), but I need to know that I am doing okay with everything. I need that little, gentle reminder that I am okay and that I am doing the right thing, and I am doing enough. I work full time and I am also going to school for my Masters(not to brag but I have a 4.0), I have a healthy and loving relationship, and I am an overall good person. I still feel that I need to do more, that I need to prove myself. Charlie is always there to remind me that I am doing great and that I do not need to prove myself.
If there is anything that you take from reading this article let it be this: even if you think your significant other doesn’t need to here some reassuance, give it to them anyway.