There is a myth that surrounds interabled relationships, and it revolves around care. Some people might believe that the care in an interabled relationship is one way, meaning that the able-bodied person is the sole person giving care. From the outside it looks that way, and sometimes it can actually be like that. Yes I do take more physical care of Charlie but he takes care of me too.
There is this notion that just because someone is disabled, that they cannot take care of someone and this is far from the truth. If I don’t feel good, Charlie instantly knows what to do. He is the most supportive and caring person in the world.
Taking care of someone in a mental way can be even more important that taking care of someone physically. I would argue that it is more difficult. Maybe that’s just me haha. So I think Charlie has the harder job between the two of us.
There has been so much going on in both of our lives the last two years, it has been a mental roller coaster for me and if it was not for Charlie, I would have been lost. He takes such good care of me.
Recently I saw a post in Instagram of an interabled relationship. The first picture was of the couple with stereotypes of what people think about interabled relationships. The second picture changed the caption to “interdependent.” This post resonated with me. There have been times when I’ve been looked at like I am a saint for being with Charlie and I don’t know what to say. Charlie is just someone I fell in love with who happens to be disabled. People need to start looking past the physical care aspect of interabled relationships. Just because someone needs physical care, does not mean that they are not capable of caring for their partner.
Here is the link to the Instagram post. She posts a lot of great stuff so please check out her page, https://www.instagram.com/p/CVKbQc4sbrr/?utm_medium=copy_link